I am glad I never really belonged anywhere nor fit in, I lived in many places, and have only a few core friends, from away. About a month ago a buddy said to me "your different" and I said "that's good thing". He was perplexed by that. Being on the outside looking in, is way better then trapping yourself within.
Interesting read Fred. Maybe I'm a wierdo? I rarely want what someone else has, whether it's a dress, house, a significant other, etc. I have always set my own rules & goals instead of following the crowd. I feel my ideas are every bit as good as others' ideas. Let's go shopping, such a nice day...no thanks, I'm going swimming, then I am either taking a nap after, or tossing on some clothes, take a drive & a short hike on a nature trail, overlooking the ocean. Trust me, I have enough clothes for 5 women! haha Patsy, are you gonna get yourself a nice little cottage now, or apartment? Nope, I'm buying a house! For just you? Why NOT just me? I don't like apartments & I am not living in one! LOL Patsy, what are you cooking today? I'm not! You're not? Nope, going to the causeway for pan fried fish & caesar salad. Isn't that expensive? No. If I buy all the ingredients & cook it for myself, it costs a lot more! Ohhhh, never thought of that. I could go on forever here LOL Thanks for a chance to have a laugh :)
I love hearing this from a woman, a strong one. I love strong, independent thinking women. I started out putting men in charge. I learned hard lessons there. I'm a completely different person now. I also own my home and will stay completely alone and independent. Cheers Patsy!!
Haha, good to hear from you Carol-Ann! Cheers to us! haha However, I miss having a partner since my fiancee passed away & am open to meeting someone, & merging ideas. If he thinks he's telling me how to look, live, walk, etc., history book starts right there. Too many couples have no idea how to merge comfortably & respect each others ideas & prefernces. If it's not fun, runnnnnnnnnnnnn! haha Life is a good teacher :)
An interesting read and I do recognise some of the influences from my younger years, married with children expressing never ending desires. Growing old put a stop to that and having to live within pension limits. It eventually dawns on us that we have all that we need and we can enjoy watching family maturing and, sometimes, giving advice like a respected sage.
Fred, again well said!
I am glad I never really belonged anywhere nor fit in, I lived in many places, and have only a few core friends, from away. About a month ago a buddy said to me "your different" and I said "that's good thing". He was perplexed by that. Being on the outside looking in, is way better then trapping yourself within.
Keith, there’s a quiet advantage to living a bit outside the circle.
You see things others don’t… because you’re not locked into defending the group.
Most people never get that perspective... they’re too busy fitting in to question anything.
“Different” isn’t a flaw… it’s freedom.
And yeah… it confuses people who’ve never stepped outside the frame.
Interesting read Fred. Maybe I'm a wierdo? I rarely want what someone else has, whether it's a dress, house, a significant other, etc. I have always set my own rules & goals instead of following the crowd. I feel my ideas are every bit as good as others' ideas. Let's go shopping, such a nice day...no thanks, I'm going swimming, then I am either taking a nap after, or tossing on some clothes, take a drive & a short hike on a nature trail, overlooking the ocean. Trust me, I have enough clothes for 5 women! haha Patsy, are you gonna get yourself a nice little cottage now, or apartment? Nope, I'm buying a house! For just you? Why NOT just me? I don't like apartments & I am not living in one! LOL Patsy, what are you cooking today? I'm not! You're not? Nope, going to the causeway for pan fried fish & caesar salad. Isn't that expensive? No. If I buy all the ingredients & cook it for myself, it costs a lot more! Ohhhh, never thought of that. I could go on forever here LOL Thanks for a chance to have a laugh :)
Patsy, I wouldn’t call that weird… I’d call that aware.
Most people don’t realize how much of their “wants” are borrowed...
you figured that out early and just kept going your own way.
And the funny part?
When someone really does think for themselves, it throws everyone else off a bit.
Buying a house “just for you”… choosing your day instead of defaulting to the crowd…
that’s not rebellion - that’s clarity.
You’re not outside the system by accident…
you just never handed over the steering wheel 👍
Fred, you ARE correct! haha The statement, "you just keep being you" is real. I see you living it every day! Cheers!
Patsy, I appreciate that more than you know... thank you 😊
Just doing my best to keep things clear and grounded… one post at a time. Cheers!
I love hearing this from a woman, a strong one. I love strong, independent thinking women. I started out putting men in charge. I learned hard lessons there. I'm a completely different person now. I also own my home and will stay completely alone and independent. Cheers Patsy!!
Haha, good to hear from you Carol-Ann! Cheers to us! haha However, I miss having a partner since my fiancee passed away & am open to meeting someone, & merging ideas. If he thinks he's telling me how to look, live, walk, etc., history book starts right there. Too many couples have no idea how to merge comfortably & respect each others ideas & prefernces. If it's not fun, runnnnnnnnnnnnn! haha Life is a good teacher :)
There are Wants and there are Needs.
It's very important to know the difference.
An interesting read and I do recognise some of the influences from my younger years, married with children expressing never ending desires. Growing old put a stop to that and having to live within pension limits. It eventually dawns on us that we have all that we need and we can enjoy watching family maturing and, sometimes, giving advice like a respected sage.